One more bad phone-related sign: "One clue is that their cell phone will be glued to their hands and their text and call history will always be clean," relationship coach Chris Armstrong tells Bustle. "Same with erasing the cookies (web browsing history) from their computer." If things seem too clean, they probably are. "When someone is cheating on their partner, erasing all of the breadcrumbs becomes priority one, largely because cheaters have a guilty conscious and a nervous mind," Armstrong says. Yeah, if your partner's history is clean, that's weird. But why are you snooping around your partner's computer?? Talk to them — don't snoop. Snooping will never, ever help anything.
5. They're Lying About Other Things
"If you catch your partner in one hurtful lie, chances are that's not the only one," life coach Kali Rogers tells Bustle. "Each couple can create their own rules for privacy, so having a locked phone or a password protected computer doesn't signify anything." Again, being paranoid about your partner cheating will do exactly no one any good. "But lying tends to be a compulsion — and those who lie tend to limit it to just one," she says. "So if your partner is habitually keeping things from you, cheating could easily be one of them." If you're not part of your partner's daily life, it's time for a real talk.
Watch for meaningful eye contact too: "[They] will have a hard time looking you in the eye, especially when having an honest chat about the relationship," Carlyle Jansen, author of Author, Sex Yourself: The Woman’s Guide to Mastering Masturbation and Achieving Powerful Orgasms, tells Bustle. Eye contact is everything!